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“I was just in a terrible local car accident, and I am finding myself in fits of rage, crying, and shouting. How can you help me with that?” This is the type of question my seriously brain-injured clients hit me with right out of the gate. Let’s face it; most attorneys are ill-equipped to deal with a call like this. We spend our lives in good schools, are polished, and somewhat elite.
But when a person like you is vulnerable to a terrible incident involving a head injury in LA, you don’t want to deal with some college kid who can’t empathize with you. I know this because many of my clients fired their first attorney for being arrogant and uncaring. Usually, the lawyer leaves you to deal with some obnoxious secretary.
Anyways, the good news is you end up with me, and you get a blue-collar empathy with white-collar training and platinum-level skill. In other words, you hire a 5-star lawyer who cares about people more and money less. But I digress.
You may think a head injury in Los Angeles is so rare it’s nothing worth giving time to consider. But don’t kid yourself. Falling objects, flying objects, slips, trips, and falls are among the top 5 injuries in Los Angeles.
How can this be so common? Imagine a wheel or tire retread flying off a fast-moving diesel rig and coming right through the safety glass in your passenger car into your face, neck, and head. Moving along, like most people, you live in a world filled with various types of relationships.
From work, love, family, and social acquaintances, you move in and out of different associations with the individuals that fill your world without even realizing you are doing so.
When your brain housing group is damaged, or the brain is severely jostled inside, new injuries can develop, and negative, suppressed emotions can become triggered. The source of pain may not be the injury itself. So this is what we will cover today.
Surprisingly, many interactions you have with other people daily are based on feelings, thoughts, and emotions you carry with you from childhood. A disability or wrongful death of a close loved one to another person’s neglect can reactivate, trigger, or deepen the effects of anchored lousy childhood experiences.
And if it needs medical care, insurance is usually not good enough for a brain injury.
Typically, one will require expensive specialists to get the best surgeons, therapists, and personal fitness trainers. And to get that money, you will need to sue the person who caused you so much grief, pain, and financial woes.
Because of my experience as a multi-million dollar advocate recognized by Newsweek Magazine as a “Personal Injury Litigator,” I am an authoritative expert in all things brain and body parts. As part of my vast experience working with brain injury victims and physicians during trials and litigation, I have gathered many concepts and ideas to assist couples, individuals, and others. Here you will find materials to assist you in understanding and coping with brain injuries.
I am attempting to help victims and survivors understand the emotions beyond what a cookie-cutter injury lawyer can convey in layperson’s terms. Below I will share some ideas and concepts to help you as part of my series on brain injury pathophysiology.
When it comes to your relationships, some preconceptions you brought with you from childhood can help build how you create loving connections, form expectations of failure, and make belief systems about how you feel loved. To truly understand who you are and what you believe, you must also understand what beliefs you still carry from childhood. Next, you must know how those thoughts, feelings, emotions, and expectations have become crucial in shaping who you are today, how you think, and what you expect from others.
Since all the daily interactions become established in our early life experiences, it is essential to understand their initial impressions. You learned how to behave from your parent’s examples. Your social conditioning taught you to believe in right and wrong, good or bad, and many other daily little influences that created you. From how to wipe your nose to how to dress and react with others socially, you learned it all at a very young age. During this learning period, you also discovered how to get and give affection, the pain of loss, and how to deal with anger/unhappiness.
As adults, we tend to mask or hide violent experiences like rape and incest. We tend to mask mental and physical abuse to cope. A violent event like a motorcycle vehicle collision or terrible fall can damage the brain and trigger old emotions, depression, and so forth. So what does a person do whose mind is now in havoc? I might suggest, in addition to listening to your doctors, to try “modeling.”
If your parents lacked any of these above life skills, you might have had no choice but to model your behavior after them. After all, that is how you were taught. But now you are invalid and bedridden after your recent accident. You are now beginning to realize how deeply ingrained your childhood cognitive development has been in your social conditioning. Some of those attitudes you may have changed during your rebellious teenage years. And still others you could have modified as you adapted to your college life, first work position, or first intimate relationship.
There are, however, many ideas and beliefs you may not realize you have that are the core basis of how you function when confronted with complex, emotional, or challenging personal paths in life. When some life patterns repeat themselves in an emotionally painful or dysfunctional way, it may be time to look into your past. Transforming problematic behavior or thoughts can be difficult. But the cognitive-behavioral approach to life transformation can address the causes of past pain by looking at unpleasant thoughts or emotions and replacing them with those you choose.
Moreover, this allows you to take control of your life and enhances your self-perception. Thus you are permitted to decide which behaviors, thoughts, and emotions you will continue to bring with you from childhood to influence your current life situations and relationships. It is not always easy to make changes, and when the changes are behaviors or ideas you have held from childhood.
And if a collision and its aftermath trigger old adverse events, the task can seem daunting. Take one step at a time and realize you can control and quickly replace the maladaptive patterns with life-enhancing ones. You can decide what to keep and what to get rid of, and when you finally become the one in control, it can be worth all the effort.
Hiring the right brain injury MD and civil negligence lawyer nearby can help instill confidence in the victim, their family, and a jury who may hear your future case. Where to look is altogether another matter. What do I recommend? For one, avoid calling lawyers off radio ads with silly jingles, TV, or sites like Yelp! Instead, look at their literature and published materials online, such as our series on the brain injury pathophysiology. Please take a look at their knowledge of psychology and interpersonal relationships. Ask former clients if they are licensed to practice law in California or if the lawyer is working on your case. See if they even return your call.
Finally, as you act out, you should not damage relationships with caretakers and those who love you. If you want to talk to a hearing, caring, zealous Los Angeles brain injury lawyer in a city near you, call (213) 596-9642. If now, use our online contact us form, and we will get back to you at a convenient time.
Michael is a managing partner at the nationwide Ehline Law Firm, Personal Injury Attorneys, APLC. He’s an inactive Marine and became a lawyer in the California State Bar Law Office Study Program, later receiving his J.D. from UWLA School of Law. Michael has won some of the world’s largest motorcycle accident settlements.